Be Intentional with Your Relationships
Let’s face it – we have all encountered “toxic” people and “toxic” relationships in our lives, haven’t we? Some of you think back on those people with a deep regret in your heart, while others think about those people and hope for something. Perhaps a hope that you could have changed that person or relationship – made it into something that it wasn’t.
God puts people in your life for a reason, but he doesn’t intend for us to be best friends with everyone!
Be intentional with your relationships. Sounds easy, doesn’t it?!? If you are anything like my former self (and the former self that sometimes creeps it’s way back to the current self), I seemed to want to befriend everyone and sometimes even “fix” them. Being intentional with your relationships is having the discernment to know who is a good friend for you to have and when to back off from one that isn’t.
Being intentional with your relationships is proving to enter into healthy relationships that don’t take time away from your familial obligations. It’s a support system that has your back, no matter what. Relationships are give and take – don’t do all the giving, just for someone to take it all away.
You don’t need permission to end a toxic relationship!
If they are tearing you down instead of building you up – cut ties! If you find yourself suddenly immersed in drama – run the other direction. If that relationship makes you feel like something is missing, move on and find a relationship that is worthy of your time and fulfills exactly what you need.
Healthy relationships don’t subject you to anguish. Relationships that are character building and supportive are worth spending your time to cultivate. Not relationships that are derogatory, take ALL your time and energy away from your faith and your loved ones, and are one-sided. It is so easy to get caught up in wanting to be someone’s friend so badly, that it’s easy to forget what’s so appealing about them in the first place.
I’m not suggesting that by living intentionally with your relationships that you immediately go through your friend list and start excommunicating people. What I am suggesting, however, is that you observe the relationships that you are part of. Are they uplifting or do they cause you stress? Is there a chance that you could make a shift in a positive direction to make an unhealthy relationship less of a burden for you?